Guys like Alice’s boyfriend hide birth control pills or flush them down the...– Lynn Harris, from “15 Warning Signs He Doesn’t Support Your Contraceptive Choices.” Sexual Assault Awareness Month is coming to an end, but birth control sabotage continues to be a very scary, very real form of abuse. This post by Lynn Harris was first published way back in 2011, but...
Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don’t have a good partner,...– —Woody Allen, via NookieNotes. This one goes out to all the bridge players and Woody Allen fans. Wishing you a good partner, a good hand, or—better still—both this lazy Saturday…
Holla, Hollaback: An Interview with Emily May
So you’re walking down the street, headed to work, or school, or the laundromat (because only the sweatpants and T-shirt you have on are clean) and you hear: “If no one has told you how beautiful you are today, please let me be the first.” What do you do? a) Stop and give out your phone number immediately! b) Keep your blinders up and start walking a little faster. c) Smile and say thank you. ...
Girls (with new wave hairdos...)
Ep. 2: Inside the Episode STIs, virginity, confusing hookups, and a visit to the lady doctor, all in one episode? Lauren’s not the only one who’s excited about the debut of Girls. But with all the conversation the show has already sparked, does anyone else out there have this song on repeat in their heads? Not that we’re complaining… We give the show props for...
For healthy women under age 30, the chances of being infertile are extremely...– —Dr. Maria Rodriguez, “Getting pregnant: Yes you can!” I.e., if you think because you’ve had unprotected sex and not gotten pregnant you’re probably infertile and don’t need to use birth control, you should read the rest of this article immediately (and then get...
When I have sex, I don’t just get off on my own kinks and my own pleasure. I...– Greta Christina’s Blog: Broccoli or Tofu? Sexual Differences in Relationships (via sexisnottheenemy) (via thechocolatebrigade) (via sexular) (via scentsandsubtlesounds) Well said.
Sex On TV: Girls Gets It
HBO’s new show Girls: where even to begin. After watching the pilot and then Sunday night’s second episode with my roommate, my biggest regret is not having taken notes. The blog fodder was literally bombarding me, kamikaze style, and I don’t even know how to tackle this bad boy. But, taking a hint from the legendary Julie Andrews, I guess I’ll start at the very beginning. Girls, birthed by...
Fun Fact of the Day:
thecsph: Did anyone know that dolphins have sex for pleasure. Looks like 9 year olds aren’t the only ones enjoying themselves at Sea World! That is fun.
Method Monday: Condoms!
In honor of STD Awareness Month, we’ve decided this Method Monday to feature the only method of birth control available on the U.S. market that protects against both pregnancy and STDs (a.k.a. STIs). You know it, you love it, you probably think of it every time you hear the phrase “safe sex.” It’s…the condom! The condom comes in two forms—external (which we...
An Earth Day reminder: Birth control is green! →
Happy Earth Day, y’all! Hope you took our reminder advice and recycled, planted, composted, used body heat to keep warm…or some combination of those activities;) If you’ve got some down time after your busy day, this article about birth control and the environment—authored by Kirsten Moore of the Reproductive Health Technologies Project—is, in our humble opinions,...
5 Handy Facts for STD Awareness Month
When we think of April, two things come to mind—rain and STD Awareness Month (not necessarily in that order). We recommend an umbrella (or a romantic spirit) for the first and our friends over at GYT for the latter. You’ve probably heard the stat—one in two people will get a sexually transmitted disease (STD) by age 25, and most of them won’t know it. The GYT campaign aims to...
fuck yeah sex education: Communication →
fuckyeahsexeducation: The number one skill you will ever learn is communication. This is especially important for relationships and sex. At first it can feel awkward to talk but you can’t expect your partner to take the lead, and there are things you need to address. Practice conversations beforehand, and encourage… Word. (No pun intended;) Communication is also incredibly important for...
So, uh, Got Any STDs I Should Know About?
Originally published on SexReally.com on December 1, 2009. Ever been really nervous about asking someone about their sexual history and STIs, then ended up having a beautiful, completely unawkward conversation? Maybe not. And that’s okay. I’d wager that for many of us there are few, if any, ideal moments to bring up contraception and sexually transmitted infections (STIs, more...
And most importantly, with regard to any and all activities, if it doesn’t...– Barb Stuckey, “Why Eating Should Be More Like Sex.” (Huffington Post) And our second-favorite quote from the article: Sex is, of course, a tactile experience. Yet our enjoyment of it comes from the combination of visual, sound, smell and taste inputs. If you have trouble imagining how...
I think sex might as well be literature before it turns into Sex, just as...– “Sexus Plexus: 20 Ways to Light a Fire.” Love this quote from Andréa Balt of Elephant Journal.
Fun Fact of the Day:
thecsph: Touching a vibrator to the tip of your nose helps to gauge the intensity of the vibrations better than just holding it in your hand Good to know…
Blood Clot Warning Added to Yaz and Other Newer... →
In case you missed it yesterday, certain brands of birth control pills—including Yaz, Yasmin, Beyaz, and Safyral—will be getting new labels to let consumers know that those particular pills may increase the risk of blood clots slightly more than other types. As the TIME piece we’re linking to here notes (and as we say, um, a lot), for most women the risk of blood clots even with...
Six Birth Control Apps Worth Checking Out
I’m sure you heard about the #teamiPhone vs. #teamAndroid Instagram beef last week. Can’t we all just get along, guys? Thank goodness for the wonderful world of birth control—it offers something for everyone! Hopefully you’ve already checked out and taken advantage of Bedsider’s custom cheeky text message reminders for birth control and medical appointments. They...
My Couch Pulls Out But I Don’t
Ever played pub trivia? Even if you have, you probably didn’t compete against every sorority at your school. Last week, Stefanie and I hosted a pub trivia contest with the GW (George Washington University) PanHellenic Association. Ten sororities came out to participate and, let me tell you, the competition was seriously cutthroat! There were over 200 people from Alpha Phi, Delta Gamma, Chi Omega,...
Sex on TV: Undercover Lovers
As long as I’ve been watching TV (basically since I was in utero), the nerd always eventually landed the girl of his dreams. Taking it on back to the days of The O.C., we had Seth, a comic book geek with a Jew-fro and a passion for two things: the band Rooney and Summer Roberts. Summer, mastering all three necessary ‘p’s—pretty, popular, and pint-sized—saw Seth as an untouchable in...
5 Songs with Superstar Condom Cameos
Yikes. Ray Stephens from Have Sex Standing Up is pretttyyy ticked off. He can’t believe that a significant number of folks know little or nothing about condoms. Do you know who does? Musicians! There are lots of song lyrics that mention condoms. Since we can’t send iPods to the uninformed masses, here are the lyrics to those catchy condom tunes. I think that they’ll remember “jimmy hats” much...
Pay attention to me! How to deal when the focus... →
Ever feel like you’re competing with work, friends, porn, sports, or a needy ex girlfriend for your partner’s attention? Check out our latest Frisky Friday and let us know: how do you deal with feeling neglected?
What's black and white and hot all over? →
A mating date between two pandas! Sounds like it didn’t quite pan out as the zookeepers hoped, but we say you can’t rush these things. (Courtesy of New York Daily News)
Sex advice and a road trip? (Sign us up.) Savage U kicked off Tuesday with a visit to the University of Maryland. A choice excerpt from a random conversation with a guy waiting to get tested for STIs at the school health center: Dan Savage: “What kind of safety precautions do you take with [your girlfriend]? …do you use condoms?” Mike (guy in the waiting room): “I...
iPhone case has secret compartment...to hide... →
Yay, technology! What will they think of next? (Courtesy of MSNBC.com)
Is It Okay to Keep Secrets From Your Partner?
Originally published on SexReally.com on August 9, 2011 “The secret to marriage is to lie,” a colleague once told me. “I hide how much money I spend on jewelry and my husband pretends not to notice.” This advice was given to me, unsolicited, by a woman who has been happily married for over thirty years. It made me laugh, but it also made me think about secrets in relationships. Is it really...
Before you hop on that bike...
Jezebel posted today about a compelling reason to keep your handlebars up where you can see ‘em. (Let’s just say it has to do with “genital sensation.” So you may want to go ahead and click through…) “Stained glass bicycle” image by jenny downing.
Birth control spotlight: The implant →
What does it take to bring Frisky Fridays and Method Mondays together at last? Um, try a Frisky Friday spotlighting the implant, making its tumblr debut on—you guessed it—Monday! Does this Monday suddenly feel a little friskier than usual?