5 Tips For Meeting “The One” - Or Just Someone
Originally published on SexReally.com on May 18, 2011.
As you may or may not have noticed, I talk a lot about dating—what to do, what not to do, how to decide who to go out with, etc, etc—but in order to date someone, you have to meet them first. That’s why I talked to some people about where they meet potential dates in my latest vlog. But whether it’s at the Club, at school, or even on the street, it’s also key to have a good strategy for making sure you actually get to talk to Mr. or Ms. Right once you’ve crossed paths.
Here are 5 tips I’ve picked up from my interviews:
1. Leave the Entourage at Home.
I will be the first to admit that when going out, sometimes my girlfriends are like my cab money—I never leave home without them. Yes, having good friends around is great for a guaranteed fun night, but a big group of friends is not necessarily helpful when a cute guy or gal is debating whether or not to ask you your name. Anslem and Janelle had experience with this one:
2. Be Approachable.
I know a lot of us live by the motto “If it’s meant to be, it’ll be”, but sometimes we are “meant” to help the process along a little. One easy way I’ve found to be more approachable is to simply smile more. at the very least, it helps to avoid walking around looking stressed, unhappy, or hostile. A pleasant expression and attitude can go a long way in making someone comfortable enough to talk to you.
3. Live Your Best Life.
You want to meet somebody. So you plan to meet somebody. You dress to meet somebody. Just to be out stressing about meeting somebody when you really should—in the words of Rihanna—just live your life! It works for Lorraine:
4. Confidence Is Key.
I think almost everyone is attracted to confidence. So walk with purpose! Dress to impress! (Which includes dressing appropriately for where you’re going.) And if you see someone you’re attracted to, find a reason to talk to them. And if the prospect of any of this frightens you at all… Fake it til you make it and take comfort in the fact that everyone else is doing the same thing!
5. When It Comes to Pick-up Lines… Keep It Simple!
When you’re ready to express that you’re looking for something more than pleasant chit-chat with a person you’re attracted to, don’t overdo it with the one-liners! Lorraine, Luwin, and Janelle have some examples of lines that worked, and lines that really didn’t:
Have you used any of these strategies? Did they work for you? Any tips of your own to share?
Veralyn Williams is a Multimedia Freelance Journalist currently working in New York City. She has spent 4 years at WNYC Radio working with various departments including: Radio Rookies, Culture, News, and Freakonomincs. Also freelancing for Black Enterprise, BronxNet Television,SexReally.com, and The Museum for African Art. Her independent work is featured on her website VeralynMedia.com. Through all of her endeavors she aims to give a voice to perspectives that are often forgotten in the media.