Neighbors fight over loud sex with even LOUDER NOTES!
Looks like these two have some trust issues. I don’t know who the bigger loser is in this situation. The angry neighbor who has to put up with the loud masturbation, the loud masturbator who is being shamed when SEX IS NATURAL AND HEALTHY, the neighbor who took the picture that has to put up with these two freaks, or me for spending nearly an hour going over these notes like a forensic scientist as if they were the fucking Shroud of Turin! Are we being trolled here? Why would the masturbator post the note on her own door? And a plug for a sex shop should push anyone’s bullshit meter into the red. What does it say about our culture when you can no longer believe in an angry, public, neighbor note fight over loud masturbation? Thoughts? (by Jonathan Corbett)
Via Happy Place
Thin walls are no fun, but we’re gonna have to side with 517 on this one… (Get it, girl.)
It wasn’t that the services a man provides with his tongue, fingers, and Big Lebowski fall short, she explained. Just that toys ratchet up the intensity—like Sriracha, but for sex.
I always feel more connected and open when I am walking and talking versus just doing the latter. I find that it’s a lot easier revealing personal, intimate information about myself when I am in motion than when I am still. Maybe it’s psychological because it feels like I can make a run for it if it goes badly. I don’t know. In any case, some of the deepest, most revealing conversations I have had with friends and lovers have occurred when I was walking with them.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
Be honest, do it in person, don’t give a laundry list of what you don’t like about the person, and don’t pause in the middle of the talk to update your status to single…
Comprehensive Safer Sex 3: Take it to the next level
As part of STD Awareness Month, Jenelle Marie of The STD Project is contributing a three-part series to our tumblr (along with an article for Bedsider.org) sharing her experiences with STIs and her suggestions for how to have the safest sex possible. This is the final post of the series.
Always bring a raincoat even if you’re not expecting rain. Image source: George Eastman House
When thinking about a comprehensive safer-sex regimen, it helps to keep in mind things that are not considered part of safer-sex too, because it’s really easy to get overwhelmed or a bit confused when you’re trying to be as responsible with your sexual health as possible.
Although sex comes with some hefty implications for your health and emotional well-being, it doesn’t have to be all business and no play. In fact, adding humor to your safer-sex plan can make those steps seem less cumbersome. When you can laugh about the things that seem a bit awkward, you lighten the mood and open the opportunity to explore and learn together.
This shouldn’t be a deal breaker for a partner. In fact, it should be very sexy to them that you’re conscientious and careful. If it’s not, you should ask yourself if this is the right person for you. Someone who cares about their body and their health is also more apt to care about you, your body, and your health. Do you really want to get intimate with someone who doesn’t place safer sex on their list of priorities?
At the end of the day, you and your partner have to decide which risks you’re willing to accept, and how you’re most comfortable negotiating them together. Whether it’s for a long-term relationship or just for a night, it should be the responsibility of both partners to talk about safer sex and prepare to be sexually healthy in the bedroom.
If you’re already living with an STI…
We talk about STIs in depth on The STD Project and provide a lot of the basic information you can find on sexual health websites alongside the grey areas most people are afraid to talk about—how to live with and have healthy relationships with an STI, when to tell someone you have an STI, how to tell someone you have an STI, and more.
Whether you’re living with an STI or doing your best to educate yourself about how to avoid them, a comprehensive safer-sex approach is the sexiest and safest way to be sexually healthy.
Swoon. These photos are just one of the many ways our college ambassadors at University of Maryland (a.k.a. Bedsider UMD) are spreading the word about birth control on their campus. Here’s what they have to say about this particular (fantastic) project:
Birth Control LOVE at UMD is a photo project by Bedsider UMD to raise awareness of birth control use (and birth control love!) across the University of Maryland campus. Birth control continues to be something that almost all college students use, but is consistently left out of everyday conversation. Let’s let go of that stigma and let the world know we love, use, know someone who USES, or have a partner who USES some form of birth control—and we CAN talk about it!
And there’s much more where that came from. Visit Bedsider’s social channels during our very first “college week” (April 15th-19th—that means it starts tomorrow!) to learn more about the amazing things our Bedsider ambassadors are doing on their campuses.