Got any? Visit TeenSource.com.
First of all, don’t panic. Teen Source is a great resource for condoms (free ones!) if you’re in California and in your teens. In California but over 19? We’ve got some tips for finding free condoms in LA and San Francisco. Not in California at all? Here’s 5 ways to find condoms anywhere in the country.
7 Steps To Take When the Condom Doesn’t Make It
There’s nothing scarier than finishing an intense session only to look down and realize that something was left behind by your partner. Where did the condom go? Unfortunately what that means is that the condom is still having a bit of fun although you and your partner are done. Even worse: It now has a few (hundred million) friends to join the party.
But just because the condom breaks or doesn’t make it to your next bedroom bash doesn’t mean all hope it lost. Here are 7 things you should do instead of panicking.
1. See the doctor.
Maybe you’ve discovered the condom broke and you’re too freaked out to figure out where it went. First, rest assured that it’s impossible for it to be floating around between your spleen and your liver. If you don’t feel comfortable enough to “explore,” see a doctor who can go where your hand may not dare to—otherwise you could risk an infection.
2. Double up if you’ve skipped pills.
Here’s what to do if you realize you missed a pill (or two, or three…). Depending how long it’s been, you may want to use a backup method.
3. Opt for Plan B.
Emergency contraception (a.k.a. Plan B) is now available without a prescription and can work up to five days after unprotected sex—though the sooner you take it, the more effective it is.
4. Cope with copper.
ParaGard is a copper IUD that can be inserted by a doctor up to five days after unprotected sex to prevent pregnancy after the fact. It increases cervical mucus and repels sperm.
5. Get tested.
If you’re sexually active you should be getting tested for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) every six months. It’s especially important when having multiple partners so that if you get an STI, you can narrow down who may have infected you or been infected by you. Keep in mind that you can’t get accurate results for some STIs until at least six months after unprotected sex, so get tested regularly.
6. Think about what went wrong.
Was the condom expired? Did you put it on backwards? Not enough lubrication? All of these are common culprits that contribute to condom failure. Think about how you can better prepare so you can avoid future scary situations.
7. Plan for next time.
If you need a better birth control, Bedsider can help break down your options. Emergency contraception can even be bought beforehand to be kept on stand-by for emergency situations.
Toya Sharee is a community health educator and parenting educator who has a passion for helping young women build their self-esteem and make well-informed choices about their sexual health. She is regularly featured on MadameNoire.com and blogs about everything from beauty to breakfast cereal to love and relationships. Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee or visit her blog, Bullets and Blessings.
Most condoms are made of superthin latex, to help a man forget that he’s wearing one. But the Origami Condom, one of the designs spotlighted by the Gates Foundation, is intended to be felt. Its accordion-like silicone folds allow it to slip onto the penis more easily than a rolled condom, and generate pleasurable friction while in use. The Origami Condom has a roomier tip than a traditional condom and a lubricated interior, which creates additional tactile sensation as the wearer moves—the difference between wrapping yourself in plastic wrap versus silk sheets.
At colleges with convenient health clinics offering a range of sexual health services—like birth control and emergency contraception, pregnancy tests, and testing for HIV and sexually transmitted infections (STIs)—students were:
—less likely to have an accidental pregnancy (4%) compared to students at schools without a clinic (7%);
—more likely to use a method of birth control the last time they had sex (92% versus 87%); and
—more likely to use a condom the last time they had sex (74% versus 60%).
For the boys, carrying a condom is a right of passage. Hell, your school (or maybe even your parent) provided you with this latex token of sexual freedom. If you’re a woman and you are carrying a condom, it’s assumed that you’ve come to this rooftop party to sleep with all the men present and perhaps even the rest of Brooklyn, too.
If you’ve ever had a condom break, it’s probably because it was stored incorrectly, expired, or put on wrong.
P.S. STORES CAN SELL YOU EXPIRED CONDOMS! Check the expiration date!
Yep, mistakes like storing condoms in the wrong place for too long, putting them on wrong, or opening the wrapper with something sharp are the main reason condoms fail. Our humble contribution? Step-by-step instructions for putting on a condom on our website and, for folks with an iPhone, an app to let you practice! (You know what they say about practice…)
Condoms are 98 percent effective when used perfectly, but only 82 percent effective with typical use. Wearing a condom that is too small or too big (Come on, guys! We know you don’t ALL need Magnums) can make a difference in how effective a condom is at preventing pregnancy. Wear a condom that’s too tight and it could break. Wear one that’s too big and it could slip off.
From Annie Shapiro’s RH Reality Check article, “Here’s a Secret: Size Really Does Matter,” August 16, 2012.
Condoms that fit well work well, so choosing a kind you like and putting it on correctly is important for having safer sex. Pick up a few for a practice session (you may even be able to find them for free) or download CondomPro for iPhone if you want some virtual practice. Try different kinds until you or your partner find one that’s just right.
When I lost my virginity, we used a condom, but literally it was the cliched “80s Movie Moment” of like, “do you have protection?” and the comedienne in me wanted to be like, “why would I have protection? I’m a 24 year old virgin,” and then the REAL comedienne in me wanted to say out loud, “yeah, I have two condoms in a shoe box next to a picture of my little brother encased in a gold spray painted picture frame made of puzzle pieces” because I DID ACTUALLY and because the only reason I even had two condoms to my name was because two years prior, my coworker put them in my cubby when I had a crush on someone as IF I was going to give it up.
When you flush a condom, there’s a chance that you could clog your toilet. It might come back up immediately or when you least expect it, like when your boyfriend’s mom is over for dinner. (It could also damage your septic system, if you don’t have city sewer.) If you are lucky enough for the condom to clear your toilet, it is going to start traveling towards a water reclamation facility (WRF). My source tells me that they rely on gravity and a downhill flow of the pipes to get the waste at least part of the way there. Because many of the pipes stretch for miles, a pump is usually needed to get the waste all the way to the WRF…Non-organic waste (condoms, diapers, feminine hygiene products, cigarette butts, cotton swabs, reinforced paper towels, etc.) often gets trapped in these pumps and someone has to go REMOVE IT BY HAND.
If you’ve ever flushed a condom down the toilet (or even considered flushing a condom down the toilet), this one’s for you. It’s an oldie but a goodie from The Feronia Project, a blog run by our friends at Planned Parenthood of Southwest and Central Florida.
We highly recommend reading the rest of “Condoms, Don’t Flush Em!" over on their site.