Don’t we know it.
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Think about your relationships. Most especially, think about those that give you the most trouble, and it is guaranteed that the reason they give you that trouble is because they are imbued with either fear or anger, or both—small-scale or large, it doesn’t matter. Fear and anger are the two most destructive elements that can be present in any relationship: parental, friendship, employee/service, lovers, family—all relationships.
Braja Sorensen, from “Relationships: ‘Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway.’ (Yoga in the Gita Series)”, Elephant Journal.
No fear! (Easier said than done, we know—but it’s worth working on, don’t you think?)
“Trust with the intensity of a thousand suns that your heartache will pass.”
Last week’s Frisky Friday had some seriously good advice for recovering from a broken heart. Check it out if you missed it on Friday.
Pay attention to me! How to deal when the focus isn’t on you
Ever feel like you’re competing with work, friends, porn, sports, or a needy ex girlfriend for your partner’s attention? Check out our latest Frisky Friday and let us know: how do you deal with feeling neglected?
Saturday love. From a cartoon sloth. (The best kind.)
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Sizing them up: Do you have a list of what you’re looking for?
Frisky Friday time! Do you have a list of what you’re looking for in a partner?
Over my dating history I have come to realize that I am not very romantic. At least not in the way most of the movies and TV shows I watch tell me I should be. Don’t get me wrong—I am thoughtful, especially when it comes to giving gifts or planning a date… but when it comes to the mushy parts like holding hands, whispered I-love-yous, and candlelit dinners, I haven’t been able to make that leap often.
This flaw of mine has gone virtually unnoticed—and my theory on why? I’d say it’s because I’m female and African. I’ll explain.
…because I’m female!
As my latest vlog (above) shows, guys get way more pressure to be romantic than women do. It’s like it’s expected that women already have romance in our blood or something. Romance is equated with love, which is equated with affection… all things we’re supposed to get from our mothers and therefore have as woman. So… apparently men have to prove they can match our natural-born romantic tendencies.
…because I’m African!
The first place a child feels love and affection (in a perfect world) is from their parents, but the way “love” is expressed is different in different cultures. Based on a conversation with my dad and my sister, I realized that the reserved way my Sierra Leonean parents showed their love definitely shaped my ability to be romantic. They both agreed…
Like my sister points out during my interview with her, communication is everything! That and being open to trying romance—even if it’s just to make the person you’re with happy. And luckily for (the future) him, I’m up for both.
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Veralyn Williams is a Multimedia Freelance Journalist currently working in New York City. She has spent 4 years at WNYC Radio working with various departments including: Radio Rookies, Culture, News, and Freakonomincs. Also freelancing for Black Enterprise, BronxNet Television,Bedsider, and The Museum for African Art. Her independent work is featured on her website VeralynMedia.com. Through all of her endeavors she aims to give a voice to perspectives that are often forgotten in the media.
Flickr Friday: Cookies and kisses in the park. (We think it’s the park, anyway. And are those alfajores…or do our eyes deceive us?)
“Young couple in love” image by tibchris.
