Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. ‘Yes’ is the answer.
We deny our innate desire for lust and touch unless we’re making love. Does that make any sense? Maybe that’s what is making us closet addicts to our beloved orgasm. Sex, sensuality, touch and desire are all rationed or at best, suppressed.
From Elephant Journal’s “Mars & Venus in Conversation: Our Insatiable Hunger for the Meaning of Intimacy. {NSFW}”
What do you think—should lust and sensuality be better integrated into life outside the bedroom?
Good blood flow brings nutrients and oxygen to the skin, which staves off wrinkling. Guess what increases blood flow and makes your skin act younger? You guessed it—sex.
So no matter how your sex expresses itself these days—whether you humped three people this morning or haven’t kissed anyone in ten years—take the time to be thankful for your sexuality. You are alive, right now, a sexual being on this planet, and you have the unique opportunity to go on a rich and hilarious journey into the heart of your own desire.
—Elephant Journal’s Candice Holdorf in “‘I Just Had Sex!’ Cultivating Gratitude and Humor.”
We are thankful—very, very thankful.
They can be eager, passionate, funny, wild, less rigid (except where it counts), and up for anything (exactly where it counts). And it’s kind of fun being the one with more worldly experience to share. But if your guy is too young you can run into maturity issues and other challenges.
While in an open-mouthed kiss, suck in deeply so you’re sucking the air from your partner. The greatest thrill when doing this kiss is the feeling of breathlessness it produces. You can surprise your partner with this kiss because 80 percent of people have never been vacuumed!
From Sex Re-Educated’s post “Kissing is underrated: A Kissing Guide.”
Hmmm… is it really true that 1 in 5 people have been vacuum-kissed? Food for thought.
‘Love means never having to say you’re sorry.’ ~ Erich Segal, Love Story
Really? No, love means saying you’re sorry often. Love means sometimes you say you’re sorry even if you are still mad and have a stinging ego and don’t feel sorry yet.
An intimate relationship does not banish loneliness. Only when we are comfortable with who we are can we truly function independently in a healthy way, can we truly function within a relationship. Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to a healthy relationship: it takes two wholes.
Fantasies provide, among other things, a sort of sexual meditation, allowing the thinker to stay focused on the act at hand. Once the fantasy is in full swing, it becomes close to impossible to penetrate that concentration — which often is essential for the sex-to-orgasm process. (Especially for women.)
And it gives our minds some exercise from the norm, allowing us to explore desires without committing to purchasing a top-of-the-line leather strap-on or perusing Craigslist for a BBW who likes fisting.
The mind is our bodies’ most powerful sex tool — especially for women — and it’ll get flaccid, out of shape and stale if you don’t let it explore. So get to it, and who cares if your thoughts are depraved, inappropriate and would make your grandma cry? It’s all in your head and no one has to know.
We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.
