No woman should ever stand in front of a man and ask him to love her. Literally or metaphorically. The man worth having will love you long before the question even crosses your mind.
Seriously, who wouldn’t want to get this for Valentine’s Day?
Don’t get us wrong—we love chocolate (and champagne… and flowers…). But a donation to stop abuse strikes us as a much more interesting way to impress a valentine.
For Valentine’s Day, the Stop Abuse Campaign will send a cute card like the one above to someone special when you donate as little as $10 to the cause. Want to know more about it? Here’s the Stop Abuse Campaign’s CEO talking about their campaign. We say: get involved, then celebrate your contribution to a worthy cause over a glass of champagne with your sweetheart.
Sex on TV: Top 5 Cuddletime Holiday Movies
You know it’s the month between Thanksgiving and Christmas when the music changes in the department stores, peppermint flavors absolutely everything being sold to you, and your pants are fitting just a little bit tighter. Don’t fight it—embrace it. Sure, it may not be snowing quite yet—in fact, it’s a balmy 50 degrees outside (thank you, global warming)—but I say turn on the A/C and snuggle under a blanket with someone special while you watch your favorite sexy holiday classic. Here are some of my favorites to get you started.
1. Love Actually. If you haven’t seen it yet, you’re really just doing yourself a disservice. Take every working British actor (there only seems to be a dozen or so, constantly being recycled), a killer soundtrack (though Mariah Carey definitely ages, “All I Want For Christmas” never seems to get old), and interwoven love stories with a holiday backdrop and you have one of the best holiday love stories of all time.
2. The Holiday. If you enjoyed Love Actually, or if you have a soul, you’ll also enjoy The Holiday. Cameron Diaz and Kate Winslet switch homes for Christmas, sending LA-based Diaz to Winslet’s quaint English countryside cottage and Winslet to rough it out in Diaz’s impressive Hollywood Hill’s mansion. Both find love, Diaz with Jude Law (a single dad wielding two adorably accented children) and Winslet with Jack Black (just go with it) by New Year’s Eve. And then there’s this cute old man—never mind, just see it.
3. Elf. A belly laugh or two can be pretty sexy, in my opinion. Plus, as big Zooey Deschanel fans, we can’t help but swoon as Buddy the Elf not only rekindles the relationship with his real father, but also finds love with Deschanel.
5. Die Hard. Just go with me on this one. It may not be as traditionally holiday-y as the movies above, but it takes place at Christmas, and there’s that McClane-Holly love story happening and everything. Whatever, if you just made your significant other watch all of the other films, it’s probably best to mix it up a bit. What’s Christmas without an over-the-top fictional hostage situation?
So get cozy, borrow your friend’s Netflix account, and watch some sexy holiday classics with someone you like to cuddle with. And no need to worry about funky breath—the overdosing of peppermint has you covered! And if you think all the cuddling could lead to more than cuddling, make sure you’ve got everything else covered too. Then share the sexy holiday details (anonymously, of course) on Bootylog.
Lauren Mann works in The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy’s Entertainment Media department. She’s been blogging about sex, love and relationships among twenty-somethings since she first joined the Campaign as an intern in 2009. Check out her personal blog at whatjewtalkingbout.tumblr.com.
Try messing up the plush bedding and crisp white sheets; shower together; bring some travel candles and draw a bath for two; wear nothing under those hotel robes and disrobe often; bring fantasy lingerie you wouldn’t usually wear at home; and try some discrete balcony sex if your room has one and the weather permits.
Making Love to Bob Dylan
Ever been unable to agree with your partner on background music for getting it on? Song writer John Wesley Harding can’t make love to Bob Dylan (yep, nice double entendre there)—but Janeane Garofalo doesn’t want to listen to anything else. We’ve so been there.
Tell us in the comments: Who do you like to make love to?
We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.
Sometimes shyness goes hand-in-hand with self-doubt and you might feel invisible. But you could never be invisible. We bet someone has already noticed you and is waiting for a little eye contact, a smile, or some small sign of reassurance. Stay open to your surroundings and look around to see who might be interested in you, then acknowledge them with your body language. This is a subtle icebreaker, but can draw people to you.