Formicophilia is sex play with ants. Or, more specifically, it’s enjoying the sexual sensation of ants or bugs crawling or nibbling on your genitals. So, formicophiliacs won’t be the ones moving the picnic blanket to get away from the bugs. They’ll be the ones who are totally fine with ants in their pants.
Fetish Friday: Alphamegamia
Alphamegamia: When one is sexually aroused by men of an older age group. (Also known as the Clooney effect. Or the Denzel effect. Or the Benjamin Bratt effect.)
Gorgeous George Clooney image thanks to Esquire.
Method Monday: Masturbation
Okay, we’re being a bit cheeky, but for many people masturbation is an important part of successfully pulling off the “Not right now” approach to sex and pregnancy prevention. And since May is National Masturbation Month, we thought it deserved some Method Monday love. So, what is there to say?
- It’s got perks. Charlie Glickman of Good Vibrations (the company that founded National Masturbation Month) listed some benefits for a Las Vegas Weekly article. “It’s fun. It feels good. It relieves stress. And it’s likely the safest sex you’ll ever have. Masturbation is also one of the best ways to learn about your body and discover what turns you on.” Need more evidence? Check out this article by Dr. Yvonne Fulbright on the health benefits of masturbation.
- Don’t believe everything you hear about it. There are many myths about masturbation, most of which were crafted in a world of pure imagination (and not the fun kind). Fortunately Planned Parenthood has a couple resources devoted to separating fact from fiction.
- Did we mention that, when used correctly, it’s 100% effective at preventing pregnancy? And by correctly, we mean instead of intercourse—not just to switch things up.
- There are tools (many, many tools) to make it easier and more fun. It’s a great time to be a sex toy user since manufacturers are now creating toys that are eco-friendly, safe, discreet, and chic. You can always shop online, or if you’re feeling up for an outing, check out our Frisky Friday with some excellent tips on how to feel confident walking into a sex shop.
- You don’t have to be alone. Mutual masturbation (a form of outercourse) can be a great option for couples who want to be intimate but don’t want to “go all the way” for one reason or another. It can also be a great way to learn about your partner’s likes and dislikes without putting yourself at risk of unintended pregnancy or STIs. Outercourse can even be an option for committed couples who want to have kids at some point and in the meantime just really don’t want to take any chances. Don’t believe us? Check out Jason talking about using “Not right now” with his wife until they’re ready to start a family: Remember, though, that some STIs can spread via oral sex or skin to skin contact, so “everything but” isn’t necessarily completely risk-free. And if you’re using “Not right now” with a partner but find yourselves moving closer to the “right now” or “sort of right now” end of the spectrum, it couldn’t hurt to look into some “right now” methods. You know, just in case…
Whatever masturbation means to you—whether it’s “rehearsing alone” or with a partner—we just, well, we really hope you enjoy the rest of your May.
“I believe in furidous masturbation” image by Dani Lurie.
Caught having sex? Here’s how to dismount gracefully
Today’s Frisky Friday has tips on what to do if someone—be they roommate, parent, or precocious rug rat—walks in on you while you’re getting it on.
Trending: 5 #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate
The conversation’s been raging all day and there are many, many tweets. But we couldn’t help noticing that the biggest first date no-nos according to Twitter users seem to center on 5 themes:
1) Things that sound like too much, too fast.
Examples:
@jcmuffins #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate “So when do you wanna meet my parents?”
@amaandapleasee #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate what do you want to name our kids? #takeiteasy
@teenishtalk #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate Can I put that we’re in a relationship on Facebook? (We say: at least they asked?)
2) Anything about your ex (strong consensus on this one).
Examples:
@ZackySundae Im still in love with my ex but he hates me… Wtf?! -_-#ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate
@Mr_iKeepitreal #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate: My ex & I use to come here a lot (We say: take this a step further and maybe DON’T take your date to the place where you and your ex made all those special memories.)
3) Things that betray your total lack of interest.
Examples:
@2fhaymus #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate what time is it?
@DeepPosts #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate “What’s your name again?”
@PocketFranklins Was I drunk when we met?#ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate
4) Things that make it sound like you’re only using your date for sex.
Examples:
@Obey_Lashan #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate So can we bang now? (We say: this one may not be totally out of the question if everyone has a good enough time.)
@x_xCassandrax_x #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate “If I pay for dinner, I expect that you’ll be having a popsicle for dessert.” (We say: um nothing against popsicles, but YIKES.)
@_SheMoansKhailz #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate ” Nice Legs , What Time Do They Open ? ” (We say: is it wrong that this made us snicker?)
5) Things your date will probably never want to know about you (ever).
Examples:
@Z3NCOWBOY #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate Sorry about the beeping noise, but this thing strapped to my leg goes off when I leave my house. :/
@Nien_Nunb #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate oh, don’t mind that. It’s always erect. (We say: depends on the date, amiright?)
@IamSassyFrass #ThingsNotToSayOnTheFirstDate I’ve discussed all my emotional issues with Siri, but she doesn’t understand.
Ah, Twitter, how we love thee. Don’t worry, though—we’d never say that on a first date.
![What do you think of when you look at this picture—getting it on, or getting some ‘z’s?
According to this article from Yahoo! Finance, memory-foam mattresses, said to make the former more difficult and the latter easier, “are far and away the fastest-growing segment of the $4.6 billion wholesale market for U.S. mat-tresses. Memory foam’s market share has shot up from 14% to nearly 20% in just the past eight years. In other words, mattress shoppers are weighing the risk — bad sex — against the promise — good sleep — and are voting with their eyelids: They choose to snooze.” [Our bold.]
On the other hand, some folks seem to be rising to the challenge and learning to rock the mold-able, quicksand-like mattresses (pun obviously completely intended) in their own special way—or taking the action to other household surfaces. We love a good challenge, but it’s also nice to have a comfortable place to get some—and, ahem, we don’t mean ‘z’s.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lzuo7wGSjN1qgfp5wo1_1280.jpg)
What do you think of when you look at this picture—getting it on, or getting some ‘z’s?
According to this article from Yahoo! Finance, memory-foam mattresses, said to make the former more difficult and the latter easier, “are far and away the fastest-growing segment of the $4.6 billion wholesale market for U.S. mat-tresses. Memory foam’s market share has shot up from 14% to nearly 20% in just the past eight years. In other words, mattress shoppers are weighing the risk — bad sex — against the promise — good sleep — and are voting with their eyelids: They choose to snooze.” [Our bold.]
On the other hand, some folks seem to be rising to the challenge and learning to rock the mold-able, quicksand-like mattresses (pun obviously completely intended) in their own special way—or taking the action to other household surfaces. We love a good challenge, but it’s also nice to have a comfortable place to get some—and, ahem, we don’t mean ‘z’s.
(via bawoon)
Regimens: IUD May Be Best Emergency Contraception
Well, we knew that. But we’re super-psyched to see this little-known fact getting more attention in the media.
Hold off on the paddles and whips. Seriously. A warmed hand is all you need for now. Try to keep the hand cupped with fingers together. A flat palm will give a little bit more of a sting.
From this week’s Frisky Friday, Hold me, scold me: How to play around with spanking
Don’t knock it till you try it—and, whether or not you’re feeling experimental, have a lovely weekend;)
