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Celebrating Hump Day with a new Guy’s Guide video!
The Guy’s Guide to Birth Control: Because we want to learn about IUDs (and whatever else he wants to tell us about) from this guy.
"I was waiting for him, and then I see him coming and it’s kinda like everybody just spread apart and here he comes in the middle…and it was just like—wait, it’s Wes—like, I don’t understand what’s happening here."
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"Yes. I’m 30 and I’m still waiting."
Me and Veronica when I interviewed her for this piece.
Since I started vlogging I have interviewed many, many 20-somethings about relationships, birth control, and sex—including some of my best friends. This year a few of my besties turned the big 3-0, so in my latest vlog, I asked them how their lives have changed since their 20s. Now, if you’ve been watching my vlogs from the beginning, you may recognize my girl Veronica. And you would know that as a Christian, Veronica is waiting till marriage to have sex. Which means she’s a long-term user of the “not right now" "method of birth control.
I love talking to Veronica about her experiences in dating because she’s always so honest about the complexities of her choice. Here are three points on this subject Veronica shared with me during our last interview.
1. “There are more virgins around than you think.”
From watching movies like 40-year-old Virgin and American Pie, you’d get the feeling that the only reason someone would stay a virgin is due to lack of opportunity. But as Veronica’s best friend I can tell you that is NOT her reason. Nor, as we both discovered recently, was it the reason for one of our favorite twins, Tamera Mowry, to wait. In a recent interview Tamara reveals, “I’m religious, so I waited until I was 29 to lose my virginity… then I felt guilty, then I became celibate until I got married.” Are you shocked?! Veronica wasn’t:
2. “I still expect my wedding night to be the bomb!”
One question I’ve always asked Veronica is how she’ll know her husband will be able to satisfy her if she marries him before they have sex. Because lets face it, sexual compatibility is sometimes an issue. Veronica always has the same answer:
3. “Other birth control methods will be in my future.”
Currently Veronica is very much in love and marriage seems to be in her near future. So I wasn’t surprised to hear that she’s now thinking about her birth control options:
As the “birth control expert” in my group of friends, when Veronica asks, I will direct her to the same place I go for BC info…Bedsider!
Are you waiting to marriage? Ever dated someone who was? Share your thoughts and stories in the comments!
Veralyn Williams is a Multimedia Freelance Journalist currently working in New York City. She has spent 4 years at WNYC Radio working with various departments including: Radio Rookies, Culture, News, and Freakonomics. She also freelances for Black Enterprise, BronxNet Television, Bedsider, and The Museum for African Art. Her independent work is featured on her website VeralynMedia.com. Through all of her endeavors she aims to give a voice to perspectives that are often forgotten in the media.
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